How perfectionism disguises low self-worth
- Jun 11
- 2 min read
Perfectionism often gets a bad rap as just being about high standards or wanting to do things well. But for many people, it’s really a way to cover up deeper feelings of low self-worth.
What’s behind perfectionism?
At its core, perfectionism can be a protective shield. When you feel like you’re not good enough inside, striving for perfection can seem like a way to prove your value—to yourself and others. It’s as if meeting impossible standards will finally make you “worthy.”
The catch
The problem is that perfection is impossible to reach. So perfectionism often leads to:
Constant self-criticism when things don’t go perfectly
Fear of making mistakes or taking risks
Avoiding challenges because of the pressure to succeed
Feeling burnt out or exhausted from trying to be flawless
All of this actually reinforces low self-worth, creating a vicious cycle.
How to break the cycle
Notice your perfectionistic thoughts. When you catch yourself thinking, “I must be perfect,” try to pause and question it.
Practice self-compassion. Remind yourself that being human means making mistakes and learning.
Set realistic goals. Aim for “good enough” rather than perfect.
Celebrate progress, not just results. Acknowledge effort and growth along the way.
Explore the feelings beneath perfectionism. Often, talking with a therapist or trusted friend can help uncover the deeper fears and beliefs driving it.
Remember, your worth isn’t tied to how perfectly you perform—it’s inherent, just as you are.
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